Mardi Gras will soon be upon us with its parties, parades, and revelries. And then there are the masks. I love wearing masks. I love wearing disguises. I love taking on a role and a persona that is foreign to me. It’s a lot of fun. But, only for a time.
Masks. Hmm.
So, why do we wear these? What purpose do they serve?
Well, they hide our true selves. They keep others guessing about who we are. They remake us into someone or something else. . . at least superficially.
Now, you may have guessed at this point that I’m not talking about wearing masks for costume parties or masquerade balls. I’m talking real life.
Masks.
When you get dressed in the morning do you anticipate who you may see or run into? Does it make you dress differently? And does the dressing then influence your behavior? What about this: you run into someone unexpectedly or an unexpected situation and all of a sudden something in you changes. Your speech, your mannerisms, your true self? I think I’ve had days like that, in fact, I know I have. I am guilty of changing my persona, of trying on different “masks” for different situations. Which is ridiculous if you think about it.
What is it that I’m trying to prove? It’s pretty ugly really.
Deceptive.
Confusing.
Exhausting.
Now, some may say that it’s only adaptive behavior necessary for functioning properly in the world. But what happens when you are caught with your mask down? Who are you then? And which one is the real you? Do others really know you, or just the “you” that you allow others to see? And what is that except abject insecurity and fear? God made us. So why are we constantly trying to change ourselves into something that we’re not? Something that we think others want to see rather than our true selves?
I would rather have someone like me for who I really am – the good, the bad, and the ugly – than have someone like me based on what I have only allowed them to see in me. Because that then becomes the “me” that they like, not the real me.
I have found that the people I am most drawn to are those who have let down their guard and let me into their lives, allowing me to truly see and get to know them. In turn, I then feel more free to remove my masks and let them see me for who I truly am. I think people respect you more when you are truly yourself. And as a former people-pleaser extraordinaire, that’s saying a lot!
God did not create cookie-cutter children. Each of us is unique and special. Let’s celebrate our differences and uniqueness! So, come out, come out, wherever you are! Stop hiding! Take off those masks, relax, and let others see the real you. Look in the mirror and thank God for making you in His image. Let your life be a testimony to the creativity of Yeshua, our Lord! You’ll experience a freedom unlike any other. So, let’s get going and start living as the “you” God created you to be!
“For You formed my inward parts: You covered me in my mother’s womb. I will praise You, for I am fearfully and wonderfully made.” (Psalm 139: 13-14)
Blessings and Peace in Yeshua,
Kathleen (Devoted to Yeshua)
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